I don't know about you, but my house plants at this time of year are huge, abundant, and HEALTHY. The Christmas cactus looks like it can't wait for the holiday, the dracenas and philadeldrons are all over place and the jade plants are rivaling the trees in the yard, especially the one on the east wall in the kitchen. I think it reaches more for the sun every early morning. My son Carl was so taken with her on his last visit that he asked to be bequeathed her in my will!
Well, I don't know whether the plant was listening to Carl or not, because last Thrusday after watering I heard a loud crash in the kitchen and you guessed it, the jade had fallen, or perhaps the term " exploded" would be a better description. I was stunned, upset, forlorn and helpless as I stood over her scattered branches. When I pulled myself together, the only thing I could think to do was to gather all the parts and place them in a cardboard box just to protect the tender leaves as I sorted out my plight.
Was this disastor a sign? Was I being warned? Always my first step when I feel I've gotten a sign is to consult my Ted Andrew's Nature-Speak book. Jade was not listed, so I had to go to the larger category of Cactus. The "keynote" was: "adaptation, find and express the beauty and strength in all conditions."
Well, my first step of adaptation was a trip to the local garden center where I was told the cardboard box was a great solution while the raw ends calloused. The victims soon would be ready for new pots and time to root and grow. I bought new pots, and when ready, I did the planting, ending up with five plants instead of one.
My next adaptation was for me, the owner and keeper of this beautiful jade tree that had lived with me for at least forty years(YES, I WAS UPSET) to figure out what my jade was trying to say to me. You see I've been living an amazing life of guidance from animals, birds, flowers, trees, numbers everything. And believe me "everything seems to have a voice!" Sometimes I hear the directive through a a phrase or sentence, and sometimes I need help. It's become a very sacred science of me knowing that I am being shown something about my life by some very Divine companions leading me forward. So you see, I now know the jade is a new escort wishing to advise me. Time to contemplate.
I thought of the plant when I watered it. I noticed that it was larger and a little unsteady in its pot, but I fidgeted with it a bit and called it "fine"! Wasn't fine was it? Obviously was out of balance, and over extended for its present pot. Hm!
Time to get honest here. How am I feeling? A Bit out of balance and too much for my spot in life? Yeah. A little too true. Too much to do. Going in so many directions. Wanting to do everything, see everybody, branching out. Pretty powerful isn't it? And I've got to admit it's painfully clear. And isn't it interesting that I ended up with five new plants, and five is the number of change. Am I being advised to change?
This definitely will deserve more meditation and contemplation, but in the meantime I am alerting you to look, listen and see what is speaking to you for your well being. The messages are truly a gift. Ted Andrews says: "A great and ancient energy is at play. It reminds us that true growth is usually slow but steady, but we must adapt and not try to force it."
I stand advised and grateful.
And probably by the time that my will is vital, Carl will have his choice of five large and gorgeous jade trees carefully cultivated and well in balance for their pot!
So here we are into the new year, at least the end of the summer and the beginning of the fall in my part of the world. I feel the newness so strongly with the academic year beginning. I live next door to a school, and the return of everyone to begin again, changes the energy on my road to a high degree!
Our weather right now in Southeastern Pennsylvania is awesome. The beauty is at as high a place as I've ever seen. It creates a feeling of gratitude in me that is even hard to express. As I meditated today, the thought of "harvest" came into my mind (that mind that is supposed to empty and be quiet!) What an amazing gift life is. We get to plant our seeds, whether it is for the creation of home, the creation of relationship or community, the growing of food, the growing of the Self. Then we get to cultivate. And, if we have done all that work (process) well, then comes the chance to harvest.
Sometimes the seeds have been seeds of growth, and sometimes seeds of change. And sometimes the seeds of change are seeds of growth! Closing the door can be as creative as opening it. I guess you could even say that harvest and beginnings are synonymous for a student reaps the results of past school years as he/she moves onto the next level of learning.
I wish you, me and the planet at whatever phase, a marvelous and abundant harvest. Bring it on!
Our weather right now in Southeastern Pennsylvania is awesome. The beauty is at as high a place as I've ever seen. It creates a feeling of gratitude in me that is even hard to express. As I meditated today, the thought of "harvest" came into my mind (that mind that is supposed to empty and be quiet!) What an amazing gift life is. We get to plant our seeds, whether it is for the creation of home, the creation of relationship or community, the growing of food, the growing of the Self. Then we get to cultivate. And, if we have done all that work (process) well, then comes the chance to harvest.
Sometimes the seeds have been seeds of growth, and sometimes seeds of change. And sometimes the seeds of change are seeds of growth! Closing the door can be as creative as opening it. I guess you could even say that harvest and beginnings are synonymous for a student reaps the results of past school years as he/she moves onto the next level of learning.
I wish you, me and the planet at whatever phase, a marvelous and abundant harvest. Bring it on!
Visiting at a friend's house for dinner six of us got caught up in a small design project. The participants were the couple whose home we were in, the 92 year old mother-in-law, two other friends and myself. The discussion centered on a small wall in the dining area where we were sitting. The discussion was What should go there? One of the owners was wanting a low cabinet on the wall, the other was wanting a tall plant and a picture. The first would mean there would be three walls with low cabinets, not good. The latter would be a repetition of the corner across on the diagonal. Not good either. One owner remembered a small inherited Victorian table, very open in a deep brown wood. Sounded good to me.
We retrieved the table and placed it on the wall. It looked great. Now, we needed wall treatment above. A picture was the first suggestion. Certainly a possibility. A tall accessory? I felt it would make the table top heavy. One owner remembered their modern metal sculpture consisting of many small and varied sized sqaure and rectangular pieces. "Get it," I said. It looked fabulous for it enhanced the curves of the table and was vertical, aligning well with the shape of the wall.
We were having fun and it was looking great. So now what should go on the table top?" This was very tricky because we had two very strong statements in the table and the sculpture. I said that I'd like a small soft green plant that was a vine. One was retrieved and what a success! The plant lived in a rectangular brass box. It was so right on!
We all loved and were so proud of our accomplishment. Finished, we went on to other topics. All except our elderly guest who remained with the new visual. She loved it. Somehow the plant added exactly what she wanted and just pleased her aesthetic sense. She just stared and stared. Her comments kept bringing us back to the vignette. Her shoulders would go up and she'd comment how it just was so nice! I was as entertained by her joy of the visual as I was by our successful creation. It reminded me deeply how much creativity can please our hearts, and how, if it really reaches us personally, it continues to bless our delight no matter who we are or what our stage in life. Truly design and beauty hold extreme importance to our Souls.
Never forget!
Love, Denny
We retrieved the table and placed it on the wall. It looked great. Now, we needed wall treatment above. A picture was the first suggestion. Certainly a possibility. A tall accessory? I felt it would make the table top heavy. One owner remembered their modern metal sculpture consisting of many small and varied sized sqaure and rectangular pieces. "Get it," I said. It looked fabulous for it enhanced the curves of the table and was vertical, aligning well with the shape of the wall.
We were having fun and it was looking great. So now what should go on the table top?" This was very tricky because we had two very strong statements in the table and the sculpture. I said that I'd like a small soft green plant that was a vine. One was retrieved and what a success! The plant lived in a rectangular brass box. It was so right on!
We all loved and were so proud of our accomplishment. Finished, we went on to other topics. All except our elderly guest who remained with the new visual. She loved it. Somehow the plant added exactly what she wanted and just pleased her aesthetic sense. She just stared and stared. Her comments kept bringing us back to the vignette. Her shoulders would go up and she'd comment how it just was so nice! I was as entertained by her joy of the visual as I was by our successful creation. It reminded me deeply how much creativity can please our hearts, and how, if it really reaches us personally, it continues to bless our delight no matter who we are or what our stage in life. Truly design and beauty hold extreme importance to our Souls.
Never forget!
Love, Denny
Last evening I had dinner with dear friends of mine who have created a life that is eight months in Mexico, four months in Tinicum, PA. When they are in Tinicum they are living in a very tiny cottage whcih they are renovating as they go along. I was there a week ago and they had part of a kitchen up, some furniture in place, and a lot of potential for more! This week I was blown away by the transformation. Oh, they hadn't finished the kitchen, they hadn't finished the floor, the closet wasn't in along the back wall, part of the electricity was still out, but because of their ability to bring out and arrange lovely objects and place them so artfully the space was charming, comfortable, and inviting. There was a gorgeous and brilliant gaphic that was a cotton fabric tacked at the front door, there were some treasured pictures placed very carefully on the walls, there were nests for conversation, there was an eating area nested in another corner with a brilliant fabric tablecloth, on and on and on. The dinner was delicious, dessert baked in another cottage's oven, pasta with pesto all prepared on hot plates, salmon done on an outside grill, ....these people are artists in the moment. The cottage does not have to be done perfectly in order to be attractive, in fact stunning, for they are so good at making what is in the moment beautiful. It also, does not have to be finished to entertain! The lesson was that for me. I wait for something to get to a certain point before I make it beautiful when it could be beautiful in all stages. I wait for the "done stage" to have people over. Instead all I have to do is accept everything exactly as it is, bring forward my creativity, and what I have in the moment and use my designer's eye (we all have one, you know) to make it happen. This way every moment is beautiful and full of life. Great learning!
We are experiencing weather this June in eastern Pennsylvania, that rivals any I remember. It's not so hot and humid, there are breezes, and because of a great amount of spring rain everything is more abundant. There are more leaves on trees, more flowers, fuller streams, even more song birds!
I can't get enough of it. Yesterday morning I got up early and found myself going straight outside. I went right to the middle of the stream and just stood in the middle, gaping. The feelings of life being magical, amazing, superb just filled me up.
During this standing meditation, my mind wandered to how many times I've had this same opportunity and not done it. I've either gotten up fast to start my long list of "to do's", or I've gotten on the phone immediately. I realized that I had truly gifted myself this morning, and needed to do it more.
We all hear more often than not about how we're leading "busy lives." It's true. And it does deny us some of these simple exquisite moments. My mind goes to a friend's presentation one Sunday morning at Pebble Hill Church. Gordon was talking about using the "margins of time"; how we all have them whether it's before or after something scheduled , or while we're waiting for someone, or a phone call or a roast to finish cooking. We have them but sometimes are impatient with them, consider them a "hold up". Gordon's advice was instead to use them for pleasure, meditation, prayer, contemplation or just sitting (or standing in a creek!), but for sure to use them.
His point is so well taken, for if we're aware of the margins we can decide to use them creatively. They can become part of our behavior, part of our day, so we fall into it more naturally. Perhaps asking ourselves at those moments, "What can I do right now, that is easy, simple and will bring me immense joy? The question might open you up to something quite unexpected, something that you do therefore, with a lot of intention.
Alex Grey, the artist, talks about going out into nature, sitting down in a spot that draws you and asking for the wood fairies, the nature nymphs to show themselves. He says it takes patience for you really have to concentrate on one particular spot, but if you're willing to wait, they will show up. He warns that you will have to be patient and trust their coming.
I haven't tried it yet, but think of me tomorrow morning. I've just decided I'll create that margin of time!
I can't get enough of it. Yesterday morning I got up early and found myself going straight outside. I went right to the middle of the stream and just stood in the middle, gaping. The feelings of life being magical, amazing, superb just filled me up.
During this standing meditation, my mind wandered to how many times I've had this same opportunity and not done it. I've either gotten up fast to start my long list of "to do's", or I've gotten on the phone immediately. I realized that I had truly gifted myself this morning, and needed to do it more.
We all hear more often than not about how we're leading "busy lives." It's true. And it does deny us some of these simple exquisite moments. My mind goes to a friend's presentation one Sunday morning at Pebble Hill Church. Gordon was talking about using the "margins of time"; how we all have them whether it's before or after something scheduled , or while we're waiting for someone, or a phone call or a roast to finish cooking. We have them but sometimes are impatient with them, consider them a "hold up". Gordon's advice was instead to use them for pleasure, meditation, prayer, contemplation or just sitting (or standing in a creek!), but for sure to use them.
His point is so well taken, for if we're aware of the margins we can decide to use them creatively. They can become part of our behavior, part of our day, so we fall into it more naturally. Perhaps asking ourselves at those moments, "What can I do right now, that is easy, simple and will bring me immense joy? The question might open you up to something quite unexpected, something that you do therefore, with a lot of intention.
Alex Grey, the artist, talks about going out into nature, sitting down in a spot that draws you and asking for the wood fairies, the nature nymphs to show themselves. He says it takes patience for you really have to concentrate on one particular spot, but if you're willing to wait, they will show up. He warns that you will have to be patient and trust their coming.
I haven't tried it yet, but think of me tomorrow morning. I've just decided I'll create that margin of time!
Anita is building a new house. This is the third house I've worked on with Anita. She's done the work of the book "What Color Is Your Slipcover?" and we both now know she loves simplicity, elegance, soft colors, more conservative looks, no drama, lines that are simple and straight. She is working with an architect who is finishing up the new plan. Anita is getting so good at answering the questions about detail on this new space. She's getting so clear, because she's understanding that her comfort is around these design characteristics I've listed. This clarity is serving her well for she is buffeted by phrases from her professionals such as:"This will make the house stand out!" This will give it character" "This is what's in!" These are very seductive statements and lead us all to what we don't want because it doesn't relate to who we are.
Some of my clients love to have their homes "stand out". Others need to see "character" for its convincing them they have character. But I would say to everyone that, it's your
character that needs to show, and there is not a standardized element that can ever represent character. I feel so strongly about this. You will never feel like you belong in the house you've built or bought, or are renting, if it's filled with someone else's interpretation of standardized, character, drama, simplicity, elegance, perfection, difference, on and on. You need to know what is perfect for you, elegant to you. Your own interpretations of your words, your adjectives, serve you and the professionals you are working with. Get clear. Notice the things you love around you, evaluate your responses to looks, feels, presentations, effects, for they all speak to you of your style. They wake you up to what makes you heart comfortable, full and complete. Do the work so no one can tell you how you can have more character.
YOU ALREADY HAVE IT. JUST KNOW WHAT IT IS AND WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE!
Some of my clients love to have their homes "stand out". Others need to see "character" for its convincing them they have character. But I would say to everyone that, it's your
character that needs to show, and there is not a standardized element that can ever represent character. I feel so strongly about this. You will never feel like you belong in the house you've built or bought, or are renting, if it's filled with someone else's interpretation of standardized, character, drama, simplicity, elegance, perfection, difference, on and on. You need to know what is perfect for you, elegant to you. Your own interpretations of your words, your adjectives, serve you and the professionals you are working with. Get clear. Notice the things you love around you, evaluate your responses to looks, feels, presentations, effects, for they all speak to you of your style. They wake you up to what makes you heart comfortable, full and complete. Do the work so no one can tell you how you can have more character.
YOU ALREADY HAVE IT. JUST KNOW WHAT IT IS AND WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE!
Sixty years of marriage, very little time apart, and the onset of a new life through the death of the partner, is HUGE. My friend Rene called me from Iowa. The days of waiting and praying had helped her father move on gracefully. Now helping her Mom know where to start a new and single life with alivness and interest was the focus that Rene was holding Sacred.
There was a homestead that Mom could return to. There was also the room that her parents had shared at an assisted living establishment. The question was which would Mom choose. Rene hoped her choice would be to remain where she'd been for the last three years for it seemed more manageable. Her mom seemed to be leaning that way also.
The reason I'm sharing this in a blog is some of the ways to deal with her mom's situation proved to be environmental. As Rene and her Mom addressed the issue her mom made definite references to the lack of warmth in the small apartment. In response, Rene talked about the possibilities of replacing the dark green carpet to a warmer beige that Mom said she liked, and perhaps changing the drapes. She also suggested some rearrangment to make the small eating area pleasant. This seemed to perk up mom's interest.
As these ideas were discussed with other member's of the family the ideas were met with comments such as, "This rug is fine. It's almost brand new." etc. These responses do not honor or recognize the importance of how a person is feeling about their space, or that there may be a real personal need for new possibilities. Talking about them is the first gift of caring. Knowing they're significance and helping to make it happen is truly an act of love.
Items with memories, furniture placed in ways that support the way we like to move or relax, pictures that hold images that are special to us such as flowers, landscapes, waterscapes, will greatly assist us in feeling our own harmony with life. Rene's wisdom in taking the time to deal with Mom's environment will guarantee her movement into new life with more ease than not. Having the space transform has so many messages, and probably the most important one is that life is not over and is worth living from a place of depth and hope..
Grieving is assisted by change on all levels, and especially on the level of our own living space.Helping an elderly parent accomplish this helps their life and yours! Helping them remember the life you all had together and seeking new possibilities also, moves everyone along the path to rebirth. Every moment on the planet deserves fullness, hope, and joy, for everyone, and an elderly parent just may need assistance in getting there.
Hats off to Rene.
There was a homestead that Mom could return to. There was also the room that her parents had shared at an assisted living establishment. The question was which would Mom choose. Rene hoped her choice would be to remain where she'd been for the last three years for it seemed more manageable. Her mom seemed to be leaning that way also.
The reason I'm sharing this in a blog is some of the ways to deal with her mom's situation proved to be environmental. As Rene and her Mom addressed the issue her mom made definite references to the lack of warmth in the small apartment. In response, Rene talked about the possibilities of replacing the dark green carpet to a warmer beige that Mom said she liked, and perhaps changing the drapes. She also suggested some rearrangment to make the small eating area pleasant. This seemed to perk up mom's interest.
As these ideas were discussed with other member's of the family the ideas were met with comments such as, "This rug is fine. It's almost brand new." etc. These responses do not honor or recognize the importance of how a person is feeling about their space, or that there may be a real personal need for new possibilities. Talking about them is the first gift of caring. Knowing they're significance and helping to make it happen is truly an act of love.
Items with memories, furniture placed in ways that support the way we like to move or relax, pictures that hold images that are special to us such as flowers, landscapes, waterscapes, will greatly assist us in feeling our own harmony with life. Rene's wisdom in taking the time to deal with Mom's environment will guarantee her movement into new life with more ease than not. Having the space transform has so many messages, and probably the most important one is that life is not over and is worth living from a place of depth and hope..
Grieving is assisted by change on all levels, and especially on the level of our own living space.Helping an elderly parent accomplish this helps their life and yours! Helping them remember the life you all had together and seeking new possibilities also, moves everyone along the path to rebirth. Every moment on the planet deserves fullness, hope, and joy, for everyone, and an elderly parent just may need assistance in getting there.
Hats off to Rene.
I have been reading several critiques of "The Secret," A new book and/or DVD by Rhonda Byrne, that is getting a lot of attention. A quick summary is that it is a gathering of opinoins/information around the law of attraction. I find myself very inspired by the clarity of this work and its message. I am also impressed with Oprah for she has chosen to share the material with her audiences through assorted panels and personal testimonials of individuals who have used the information.
The criticism of " The Secret"seems to focus on it being too materialistic. It doesn't dispute the law, but suggests it's dark in its presentation of how to use it and what to use it for.. The critics do not seem to trust persons with its application, or feel that it is dangerous to focus on this law for if it doesn't work it throws them into despair or guilt of being powerless. It definitely states that this product is leading us all into the trap of consumerism and materialism because we can "use it to attract less Spiritual things into our life."
So, now I want to throw in my two cents:
So tuning in and listening to our heart and our feelings tells us if we're way into ego, greed, being unconscious or not. Then we have a choice to change. There is no right or wrong, there is poor choice and better choice. And there are lessons that do result from any choice.And they are what guide us on.
We have free choice. That's a law also. And we always can count on consequences, good or bad. I celebrate everyone's free choice including mine, and I welcome this fine teaching of how energy works in my life and yours.
The criticism of " The Secret"seems to focus on it being too materialistic. It doesn't dispute the law, but suggests it's dark in its presentation of how to use it and what to use it for.. The critics do not seem to trust persons with its application, or feel that it is dangerous to focus on this law for if it doesn't work it throws them into despair or guilt of being powerless. It definitely states that this product is leading us all into the trap of consumerism and materialism because we can "use it to attract less Spiritual things into our life."
So, now I want to throw in my two cents:
- First, I so appreciate Rhonda's creation in terms of the study it provides for anyone.
- Second I am excited that it's getting so much press and acceptance.
- Third, I have been so moved by persons who have grasped the idea and so quickly applied it to their own lives in such a healing way.
- <>Fouth, I love the stir!
So tuning in and listening to our heart and our feelings tells us if we're way into ego, greed, being unconscious or not. Then we have a choice to change. There is no right or wrong, there is poor choice and better choice. And there are lessons that do result from any choice.And they are what guide us on.
We have free choice. That's a law also. And we always can count on consequences, good or bad. I celebrate everyone's free choice including mine, and I welcome this fine teaching of how energy works in my life and yours.
I'm just back from Omega's Agelessness Conference in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. I have returned home filled with energy, new inspiration, and a tired body. Rest and reentry are essential. Grounding myself back into the life I usually live. As you know this is not always easy when one is returning from one inspiring speaker after another, a gorgeous hotel room looking out on the ocean, constant companionship with like-minded people not to mention the ever present restaurant with choices beyond my usual menu and totally prepared without my effort. Reentry is not easy!
Of course, I've done this before, and sometimes with little success, but a lot of learning! I know the recipe:.
My point in telling you this is that the medicine of my home saved me. I cancelled everything for two days, built a fire in the fireplace, walked around talking to my plants, slept, changed my sheets, drank a lot of water, touched my things, unpacked (no, I hadn't even done that), watched Oprah (she's amazing), slept, ate sparsely, didn't answer the phone, listened to my footsteps in the house, picked up my knitting, did some yoga and meditation, and then slept again in front of the fire. I finally began to feel normal. The point of telling you this, is that I again was shown how great it is to have the home ready to be this tool. It was easy to build the fire, take the naps, love the beauty, watch the sunset from a favorite spot, put on the lights that create my ambience, fluff the pillows that I love, make the quick snack, do my laundry, and just plain love myself in the way that is only best for me.
Please consider this my ode to my home.......
In Gratitude.
Of course, I've done this before, and sometimes with little success, but a lot of learning! I know the recipe:.
- Drop your expectations of this smorgasboard continuing!
- Don't talk about it too much to those who remained in their usual routine.
- Come into the moment.
- Get grounded.
- Don't expect anyone to be on the same page or even know what you're talking about!
Okay, got it! So now I'll attempt to do it again. Hopefully I'll succeed without being too hard on myself if I don't succeed..................
Well, you see this time I had such a busy work schedule awaiting me, so I dropped right into "doing it all", using the surge of energy that new ideas can provide. Big mistake! I really flattened. My body got too tired and I felt terrible.
My point in telling you this is that the medicine of my home saved me. I cancelled everything for two days, built a fire in the fireplace, walked around talking to my plants, slept, changed my sheets, drank a lot of water, touched my things, unpacked (no, I hadn't even done that), watched Oprah (she's amazing), slept, ate sparsely, didn't answer the phone, listened to my footsteps in the house, picked up my knitting, did some yoga and meditation, and then slept again in front of the fire. I finally began to feel normal. The point of telling you this, is that I again was shown how great it is to have the home ready to be this tool. It was easy to build the fire, take the naps, love the beauty, watch the sunset from a favorite spot, put on the lights that create my ambience, fluff the pillows that I love, make the quick snack, do my laundry, and just plain love myself in the way that is only best for me.
Please consider this my ode to my home.......
Do you hear me my wonderful space? You're not the Taj Mahal, and you are all mine,
with my pictures, my plants, my wonderful bed, my reminders of days gone by, my warmth,
my softness, my me. Thank goodness I took the time to put you together according
to what I need for I am again nourished and healed by you and by my
wisdom to finally stop, integrate all new ways I've expanded,
and relish my life with great acceptance and joy.
with my pictures, my plants, my wonderful bed, my reminders of days gone by, my warmth,
my softness, my me. Thank goodness I took the time to put you together according
to what I need for I am again nourished and healed by you and by my
wisdom to finally stop, integrate all new ways I've expanded,
and relish my life with great acceptance and joy.
In Gratitude.
I had borrowed a book, Wherever You Go, There You Are by John Kabat-Zinn, from my daughter Robin, and was reading it upon retiring. As I grew sleepy I let the reading material drop to the floor and went off to sleep. Waking in the morning I felt wonderfully ready for the day and decided to meditate before leaving my cacoon. I raised myself to a comfortable sitting position, did a few quiet Ohms (the rest of the family was still sleeping) and dropped into following my breath and emptying my mind (always a challenge!) The moments flew by as I emptied, refocused, emptied, refocused until slowly my imagination began sending me images of amazing, colorful flowers. There were bouquets, gardens, assortments of flowers. Some were just flowing in sunshine, some softly bending in breezes, some seeming to move like a river through this vast space of my beingingness. It was so beautiful and quite entertaining. I let it continue for as long as I could and then suddenly and slowly began to return to my presence in the room. I felt so deep and in touch with myself. A very happy experience.
Opening my eyes, I remembered the book that had slipped out of my hands to the floor the night before. Reaching down I decided I would hold it in my hands as I often do and slowly slip my thumbnail between random pages, trusting that there was an important message for me to receive. The book opened and on the page I read:
Opening my eyes, I remembered the book that had slipped out of my hands to the floor the night before. Reaching down I decided I would hold it in my hands as I often do and slowly slip my thumbnail between random pages, trusting that there was an important message for me to receive. The book opened and on the page I read:
Don't go outside your house to see the flowers.
My friend, don't bother with that excursion.
Inside your body there are flowers,
One flower has a thousand petals
That will do for a place to sit,
Sitting there you will have a glimpse of beauty
Inside the body and out of it.
Before gardens and after gardens
Oh my!.
My friend, don't bother with that excursion.
Inside your body there are flowers,
One flower has a thousand petals
That will do for a place to sit,
Sitting there you will have a glimpse of beauty
Inside the body and out of it.
Before gardens and after gardens
Oh my!.
This e mail came to me, and showed me how the universe is at work. This person/old friend ha a lot of the same thoughts, feelings, goals about design, that I have. And we haven't talked or shared any of that! But the universe finally needed us to know that we're both working on the same ideas. what a wonderful e mail.
Dear Denny-What fun to find you! We seem to have ended up in a similar spot, although from different directions. Just felt a desire to connect...35 years ago there was a decision to be made... psychology or interior design. I went psychology (this is year 27 working as a school psychologist) but my passion for the spaces we create has remained alive and well! Four years ago I was trained through IADA (Interior Arrangement and Design Assoc) and set up a business in room redesign. Have loved it.... the immediacy and the concrete visual nature of the work has been a wonderful balance to my last 27 years. In addition to rolling up my sleeves and pushing furniture around I have thoroughly enjoyed working with clients as they are “reinventing” themselves, for whatever reason. As you know, as they evolve, so do their spaces...and as their spaces evolve, so do they. A year ago I developed materials to use in a small group seminar, Interiors: yours...your homes. It was a wonderful marriage of my years in psychology, education and my new second career. But, as life sometimes goes, things came up and I was not able to get it off the ground to actually DO them!?! Recently, the little voice in my head has been calling once again saying there is a need to help people define what speaks to them in life and in their homes and gain confidence in their ability to bring it all together. The seminar outlines are back on my desk . I have been doing some research / reading to refocus my efforts and in this process your book just plain popped off the shelf into my hand one day at the bookstore. It is GREAT! I have loved it and feel as though I had found a comrade......thank you! Kathy-- Kathy Anderson, IADAsimply...Aha952-486-1346 (c)www.simply-aha.comBringing the FUN back into creating your home!
Dear Denny-What fun to find you! We seem to have ended up in a similar spot, although from different directions. Just felt a desire to connect...35 years ago there was a decision to be made... psychology or interior design. I went psychology (this is year 27 working as a school psychologist) but my passion for the spaces we create has remained alive and well! Four years ago I was trained through IADA (Interior Arrangement and Design Assoc) and set up a business in room redesign. Have loved it.... the immediacy and the concrete visual nature of the work has been a wonderful balance to my last 27 years. In addition to rolling up my sleeves and pushing furniture around I have thoroughly enjoyed working with clients as they are “reinventing” themselves, for whatever reason. As you know, as they evolve, so do their spaces...and as their spaces evolve, so do they. A year ago I developed materials to use in a small group seminar, Interiors: yours...your homes. It was a wonderful marriage of my years in psychology, education and my new second career. But, as life sometimes goes, things came up and I was not able to get it off the ground to actually DO them!?! Recently, the little voice in my head has been calling once again saying there is a need to help people define what speaks to them in life and in their homes and gain confidence in their ability to bring it all together. The seminar outlines are back on my desk . I have been doing some research / reading to refocus my efforts and in this process your book just plain popped off the shelf into my hand one day at the bookstore. It is GREAT! I have loved it and feel as though I had found a comrade......thank you! Kathy-- Kathy Anderson, IADAsimply...Aha952-486-1346 (c)www.simply-aha.comBringing the FUN back into creating your home!
Last weekend Pennsylvania got 14" of snow. Saturday was the day nobody moved. I think we all love that first snowday that forces hibernation. It's the best.
In the midst of my snuggling an e mail arrived that I'd like to share.
In the midst of my snuggling an e mail arrived that I'd like to share.
Denny-What fun to find you! We seem to have ended up in a similar spot, although from different directions. Just felt a desire to connect...35 years ago there was a decision to be made... psychology or interior design. I went psychology (this is year 27 working as a school psychologist) but my passion for the spaces we create has remained alive and well! Four years ago I was trained through IADA (Interior Arrangement and Design Assoc) and set up a business in room redesign. Have loved it.... the immediacy and the concrete visual nature of the work has been a wonderful balance to my last 27 years. In addition to rolling up my sleeves and pushing furniture around I have thoroughly enjoyed working with clients as they are “reinventing” themselves, for whatever reason. As you know, as they evolve, so do their spaces...and as their spaces evolve, so do they. A year ago I developed materials to use in a small group seminar, Interiors: yours..your homes. It was a wonderful marriage of my years in psychology, education and my new second career. But, as life sometimes goes, things came up and I was not able to get it off the ground to actually DO them!?! Recently, the little voice in my head has been calling once again saying there is a need to help people define what speaks to them in life and in their homes and gain confidence in their ability to bring it all together. The seminar outlines are back on my desk . I have been doing some research / reading to refocus my efforts and in this process your book just plain popped off the shelf into my hand one day at the bookstore. It is GREAT! I have loved it and feel as though I have found a comrade......thank you! Kathy--
Kathy Anderson, IADAsimply...Aha 952-486-1346 (c)www.simply-aha.com
Bringing the FUN back into creating your home!
Thank you Kathy!
Kathy lives in Minnesota. The Universe has certainly been busy planting this idea of home design being profound and transforming, in a lot of places.
I've also just had a call about some women in New Jersey, who've formed a group to do the process of "What Color Is Your Slipcover." Word has it that they are really having a good time.
I hope it all keeps growing. Whether it's Kathy doing seminars in Minnesota, Kathy Roberts starting her own business using the book's process in Ohio, or classes being created in Virginia, it's movement toward more personal homes. I hope I keep getting letters. I hope more families have homes that fit their current life. I hope lives become richer from the work of designing through the heart. I hope! I hope! I hope!
YES! A BIG, LOUD YES!
"But how?" you ask. "Relationship is so organic?"
It's true and if the home becomes authentic to your "couple needs” then the possibilities of replumbing your love dynamic are totally possible. Empty nesters ask this question most often. It's because they've been living a particular way a long time and when the kids leave, the tracks they’ve been riding in for so long are hard to move out of. But it is truly possible and exciting.
Often it's one member of the partnership that is dissatisfied, although my guess is it's mutual and only one is aware and verbalizing. But the aware party can be the leader in opening the issue. Of course, dialoguing without blame is the first way to go. Expressing the yearnings of now, the desire for more romance, more attention to the marriage or relationship, loneliness, desire for new projects or concern for the life of the relationship creates intimacy. When another hears the words formed that represents thoughts, it touches deep. Especially if there is no attack or blame happening, but instead the desire to share. Be sure to choose the event or place for this conversation carefully.
Sometimes these dialogues begin the process of renewal, and sometimes they fail because the awareness is not shared. If the latter has happened to you, then you can look to the environment for some support. Try moving lights around so there's new feelings, more intimate shadows. Use candlelight often, serve meals in more intimate spots in the house, rearrange furniture to create cozy space, put a cozy chair for reading near the kitchen workspot, create a place for conversation in the bedroom, on and on. And certainly don't forget to make the bedroom more romantic. Think of things that feed the current life. This is a great beginning.
Sometimes the above gets the fires going and a more expansive project can emerge. This of course, takes more effort and probably more money! It will certainly create more discussion, but watching patterns of movement, seeing empty spaces that are never entered, noticing how you both are separated by the present orientation of the house or apartment are very helpful ways for moving ahead effectively.
You may come up with the thought to bring the home office closer to the common space. You could decide to add on a sun porch for relaxing or to open walls so rooms don't separate. It's really deciding what you want now. An exercise that I love for finding out what is missing from your life is writing a fantasy day. You contemplate what you would literally choose to do with 24 hours if anything and anyone was possible. Write it in great detail. Your job then is to figure out how you create the dynamic that your story represents in your home.
If the other person isn't into the exercise big time, you can play around in conversation, "Like what would you do with 24 hours blah blah blah." It's a great game over dinner. You might be surprised with what you hear. And by the way if you're missing from the fantasy don't get upset. It means you're very present in the life. Remember this reveals what's missing! The tricky part is figuring out how you transform the essence of the fantasy. Does it represent excitement, travel, romance, alone time, freedom, play etc? For example if travel were the message, to initiate a conversation on "Should we travel more?" would be appropriate. If the answer is yes then instigate the things to make it happen i.e. A drawer in the desk or a spot for travel brochures, videos on travel, articles that enlighten possibilities, a convenient place to store suitcases. You could even each write on slips of paper, places you yearn to see. Then someone draws a slip for the next planning session of an adventure.
In my practice one man I worked with said he'd have a conversation with his father who had passed on. Obviously there was some yearning on some level here. I suggested he bring out some wonderful old snapshots or portraits of times past with dad to help support and remind. I also heard regret for lost possibilities of intimacy so we created spaces for quiet shadings in the home now. These could prevent the continuation of such a loss. This may sound far-fetched, but the note I received from him truly was a testimonial to the process and our success.
If none of the above works, then you need to become a magician and court your partner. Yes, courting using the environment. Be a sneak. Find out what they love now and bring it about. Enhance the corner where they love to read. Leave small tokens of your affection around, or thoughtful notes or a rose perhaps! Try to remember their favorite color and use it. Bring out the candles (subtly at first!), play their favorite music on the stereo, figure out ways to wake up the senses, and be sure you do it according to your partner's index! It takes some detective work.
If either one of you is sporting a new interest in learning something or crafting, consider setting up spaces to let it happen. One couple discovered that they both had a desire to paint. They signed up for a nightschool course took over a now vacant bedroom as a studio, and each had their easel and their library of color. Magic happened.
It all has potential. The home is always a tool to open up the life. Use it well.
"But how?" you ask. "Relationship is so organic?"
It's true and if the home becomes authentic to your "couple needs” then the possibilities of replumbing your love dynamic are totally possible. Empty nesters ask this question most often. It's because they've been living a particular way a long time and when the kids leave, the tracks they’ve been riding in for so long are hard to move out of. But it is truly possible and exciting.
Often it's one member of the partnership that is dissatisfied, although my guess is it's mutual and only one is aware and verbalizing. But the aware party can be the leader in opening the issue. Of course, dialoguing without blame is the first way to go. Expressing the yearnings of now, the desire for more romance, more attention to the marriage or relationship, loneliness, desire for new projects or concern for the life of the relationship creates intimacy. When another hears the words formed that represents thoughts, it touches deep. Especially if there is no attack or blame happening, but instead the desire to share. Be sure to choose the event or place for this conversation carefully.
Sometimes these dialogues begin the process of renewal, and sometimes they fail because the awareness is not shared. If the latter has happened to you, then you can look to the environment for some support. Try moving lights around so there's new feelings, more intimate shadows. Use candlelight often, serve meals in more intimate spots in the house, rearrange furniture to create cozy space, put a cozy chair for reading near the kitchen workspot, create a place for conversation in the bedroom, on and on. And certainly don't forget to make the bedroom more romantic. Think of things that feed the current life. This is a great beginning.
Sometimes the above gets the fires going and a more expansive project can emerge. This of course, takes more effort and probably more money! It will certainly create more discussion, but watching patterns of movement, seeing empty spaces that are never entered, noticing how you both are separated by the present orientation of the house or apartment are very helpful ways for moving ahead effectively.
You may come up with the thought to bring the home office closer to the common space. You could decide to add on a sun porch for relaxing or to open walls so rooms don't separate. It's really deciding what you want now. An exercise that I love for finding out what is missing from your life is writing a fantasy day. You contemplate what you would literally choose to do with 24 hours if anything and anyone was possible. Write it in great detail. Your job then is to figure out how you create the dynamic that your story represents in your home.
If the other person isn't into the exercise big time, you can play around in conversation, "Like what would you do with 24 hours blah blah blah." It's a great game over dinner. You might be surprised with what you hear. And by the way if you're missing from the fantasy don't get upset. It means you're very present in the life. Remember this reveals what's missing! The tricky part is figuring out how you transform the essence of the fantasy. Does it represent excitement, travel, romance, alone time, freedom, play etc? For example if travel were the message, to initiate a conversation on "Should we travel more?" would be appropriate. If the answer is yes then instigate the things to make it happen i.e. A drawer in the desk or a spot for travel brochures, videos on travel, articles that enlighten possibilities, a convenient place to store suitcases. You could even each write on slips of paper, places you yearn to see. Then someone draws a slip for the next planning session of an adventure.
In my practice one man I worked with said he'd have a conversation with his father who had passed on. Obviously there was some yearning on some level here. I suggested he bring out some wonderful old snapshots or portraits of times past with dad to help support and remind. I also heard regret for lost possibilities of intimacy so we created spaces for quiet shadings in the home now. These could prevent the continuation of such a loss. This may sound far-fetched, but the note I received from him truly was a testimonial to the process and our success.
If none of the above works, then you need to become a magician and court your partner. Yes, courting using the environment. Be a sneak. Find out what they love now and bring it about. Enhance the corner where they love to read. Leave small tokens of your affection around, or thoughtful notes or a rose perhaps! Try to remember their favorite color and use it. Bring out the candles (subtly at first!), play their favorite music on the stereo, figure out ways to wake up the senses, and be sure you do it according to your partner's index! It takes some detective work.
If either one of you is sporting a new interest in learning something or crafting, consider setting up spaces to let it happen. One couple discovered that they both had a desire to paint. They signed up for a nightschool course took over a now vacant bedroom as a studio, and each had their easel and their library of color. Magic happened.
It all has potential. The home is always a tool to open up the life. Use it well.
A friend sent me an amazing account of clutter in American families today. It was published in the Lubbock Avalanche-Journal on Sunday, October 23, 2005. In my opinion the subject is well stated by this reporter. Before I summarize my own thoughts I am going to quote some poignant passages from the article.
American Families Dwell in Clutter, Unruliness. Accumulated Stuff Symptom of Disorganized, Messy Mind-Set in Modern American Households. (Boulder, Colorado - AP)
“To many observers, clutter reflects the mind-set of the modern household - overburdened, disorganized and compulsive. To others, clutter is a broader symbol of a ravenous culture dependent on easy credit, piling up debt and consuming a lion's share of the world's resources without considering the consequences.”
" People's homes are a reflection of their lives," says Los Angeles psychologist and organizational consultant Peter Walsh. "It is no accident that people have huge weight problems in this country, and clutter is the same thing. Homes are an orgy of consumption."
“The obesity analogy isn't a joke. While personal spending drives much of the U.S. economy, the resulting clutter from all that shopping is so pervasive that some researchers wonder if it might have a deeper, biological component, similar to overeating.”
“.....Scientists have difficulty quantifying clutter. It is a private problem that most people sweep under the bed and shove behind closed doors. On cable TV, at least three reality shows are devoted to clutter management. On the Learning Channel, "Clean Sweep" employs psychologist Walsh. It has filmed more than 200 episodes unloading people's junk.
“Fifty cities in 17 states have chapters of Clutterers Anonymous, a 12-step recovery program.”
“For some, clutter results from more than rampant shopping. It suggests widespread social discontent.”
"People hold onto stuff like their kids' old clothing as a way of holding onto the past." Walsh says. "Or they keep things they think they might need someday as a way to control the future."
“Hoarding research focuses on changes to a region of the brain connected with decision-making problem-solving and anticipating rewards.”
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This is powerful stuff and something you've certainly heard me talk about a lot in my book. I think the piece that moves me the most in this article is "People's homes are a reflection of their lives," and "clutter is a broader symbol of a ravenous culture dependent on easy credit, piling up debt and consuming a lion's share of the world's resources without considering the consequences."
I think all of us daily feel the pull to consume. I know I do. I can be finished work and driving home and oops, I'm passing Marshall's. I immediately fashion the idea of pulling in to see if there's a bargain in my size. I've come to recognize this feeling as a need of immediate gratification, because I really don't need another piece of clothing. And I don't need to spend time shopping which takes time from personal relaxation. It's another form of addictive "doing." Doing that I can feel the results of immediately! I also know I don't need a lot of stuff to grow my self-esteem (oh all right! at least I'm trying not to).
Getting smarter about my own reality, I've learned to acknowledge that pull to shop and instead decide to do something else instead. Perhaps I'll go home and read another chapter in my good book, or take a walk in the leaves (if it's not raining!), or stop to see a friend. My car is now eight years old. I have never owned a car for eight years! In fact I used to have a belief that it was time to get rid of a car after two years so I didn't own something that was going to begin to give me problems.
I've had to talk fast to myself a couple of times when I passed a new model that looked stunning, but I quickly remind myself of the unbelievable piles of trashed cars I've seen in dumps nationwide, and discipline myself to not add to the pile. My car runs beautifully. It has a lot more miles in it. It's only my ego that will be satisfied by the shinny new vehicle that I can accessorize, and sport around in town. Not a good reason.
I agree with this reporter that all of our stuff accumulating is a reflection of dissatisfied Souls numbing their feelings (my words) and failing to take a path that is less gluttonous. I sit with many a friend who complains about the United State and its gluttony (we consume over half of the world's resources) and we never mention the gluttony in our own lives. We really need to get it that all these things we're complaining about exist within us and will not change until we clean up our act.
War is the same. We all cry about our sons and daughter being sent off to battle, but we're totally unable to resolve small differences within our families, our relationships, our workplaces. It's all the same. War won't go away until we manage to resolve differences in each one of our lives.
So I urge us all to sit down quietly and contemplate what our inner work is. How we can change so that we are a mirror that is much more helpful to the planet. It's really up to each one of us.
At the end of this great article was a list of tips. I'm going to leave you with the list in case it could help you declutter! And thanks for listening. I have total faith that we'll all get it together. I just hope it's soon enough to save the planet.
Cluttered Lives - Tips from personal organizers for reducing household clutter.
* Have a family meeting to decide what should go and what's off-limits.
* Be realistic. Don't do it all at once. Try one room or one closet at a time.
* Seek professional help if you fail to reorganize more than twice.
* Seek professional help and psychological counseling if your clutter prevents you from using rooms as they were intended, if broken appliances go unrepaired or if your stuff blocks normal access to halls, closets and doors.
* Be ready with boxes, trash bags and cleaning supplies. Know where you will donate unwanted possessions.
* Limit what comes inside the house. Sort unwanted mail and fliers over a trash can by the door.
* Throw out two old possessions for every new one.
* If your Star Wars action figures or baseball cards are not on display or catalogued, it's not a collection. It's junk.
* Mark pantry items with throw away dates in 3-6 months.
* Don't buy when you can rent or borrow, such as DVDs and books.
* If you haven't worn clothing in a year or it no longer fits, donate it.
* Limit childhood souvenirs to a few.
* Read my book, What Color Is Your Slipcover?
* Good luck!
American Families Dwell in Clutter, Unruliness. Accumulated Stuff Symptom of Disorganized, Messy Mind-Set in Modern American Households. (Boulder, Colorado - AP)
“To many observers, clutter reflects the mind-set of the modern household - overburdened, disorganized and compulsive. To others, clutter is a broader symbol of a ravenous culture dependent on easy credit, piling up debt and consuming a lion's share of the world's resources without considering the consequences.”
" People's homes are a reflection of their lives," says Los Angeles psychologist and organizational consultant Peter Walsh. "It is no accident that people have huge weight problems in this country, and clutter is the same thing. Homes are an orgy of consumption."
“The obesity analogy isn't a joke. While personal spending drives much of the U.S. economy, the resulting clutter from all that shopping is so pervasive that some researchers wonder if it might have a deeper, biological component, similar to overeating.”
“.....Scientists have difficulty quantifying clutter. It is a private problem that most people sweep under the bed and shove behind closed doors. On cable TV, at least three reality shows are devoted to clutter management. On the Learning Channel, "Clean Sweep" employs psychologist Walsh. It has filmed more than 200 episodes unloading people's junk.
“Fifty cities in 17 states have chapters of Clutterers Anonymous, a 12-step recovery program.”
“For some, clutter results from more than rampant shopping. It suggests widespread social discontent.”
"People hold onto stuff like their kids' old clothing as a way of holding onto the past." Walsh says. "Or they keep things they think they might need someday as a way to control the future."
“Hoarding research focuses on changes to a region of the brain connected with decision-making problem-solving and anticipating rewards.”
_______________________________________________________________________________
This is powerful stuff and something you've certainly heard me talk about a lot in my book. I think the piece that moves me the most in this article is "People's homes are a reflection of their lives," and "clutter is a broader symbol of a ravenous culture dependent on easy credit, piling up debt and consuming a lion's share of the world's resources without considering the consequences."
I think all of us daily feel the pull to consume. I know I do. I can be finished work and driving home and oops, I'm passing Marshall's. I immediately fashion the idea of pulling in to see if there's a bargain in my size. I've come to recognize this feeling as a need of immediate gratification, because I really don't need another piece of clothing. And I don't need to spend time shopping which takes time from personal relaxation. It's another form of addictive "doing." Doing that I can feel the results of immediately! I also know I don't need a lot of stuff to grow my self-esteem (oh all right! at least I'm trying not to).
Getting smarter about my own reality, I've learned to acknowledge that pull to shop and instead decide to do something else instead. Perhaps I'll go home and read another chapter in my good book, or take a walk in the leaves (if it's not raining!), or stop to see a friend. My car is now eight years old. I have never owned a car for eight years! In fact I used to have a belief that it was time to get rid of a car after two years so I didn't own something that was going to begin to give me problems.
I've had to talk fast to myself a couple of times when I passed a new model that looked stunning, but I quickly remind myself of the unbelievable piles of trashed cars I've seen in dumps nationwide, and discipline myself to not add to the pile. My car runs beautifully. It has a lot more miles in it. It's only my ego that will be satisfied by the shinny new vehicle that I can accessorize, and sport around in town. Not a good reason.
I agree with this reporter that all of our stuff accumulating is a reflection of dissatisfied Souls numbing their feelings (my words) and failing to take a path that is less gluttonous. I sit with many a friend who complains about the United State and its gluttony (we consume over half of the world's resources) and we never mention the gluttony in our own lives. We really need to get it that all these things we're complaining about exist within us and will not change until we clean up our act.
War is the same. We all cry about our sons and daughter being sent off to battle, but we're totally unable to resolve small differences within our families, our relationships, our workplaces. It's all the same. War won't go away until we manage to resolve differences in each one of our lives.
So I urge us all to sit down quietly and contemplate what our inner work is. How we can change so that we are a mirror that is much more helpful to the planet. It's really up to each one of us.
At the end of this great article was a list of tips. I'm going to leave you with the list in case it could help you declutter! And thanks for listening. I have total faith that we'll all get it together. I just hope it's soon enough to save the planet.
Cluttered Lives - Tips from personal organizers for reducing household clutter.
* Have a family meeting to decide what should go and what's off-limits.
* Be realistic. Don't do it all at once. Try one room or one closet at a time.
* Seek professional help if you fail to reorganize more than twice.
* Seek professional help and psychological counseling if your clutter prevents you from using rooms as they were intended, if broken appliances go unrepaired or if your stuff blocks normal access to halls, closets and doors.
* Be ready with boxes, trash bags and cleaning supplies. Know where you will donate unwanted possessions.
* Limit what comes inside the house. Sort unwanted mail and fliers over a trash can by the door.
* Throw out two old possessions for every new one.
* If your Star Wars action figures or baseball cards are not on display or catalogued, it's not a collection. It's junk.
* Mark pantry items with throw away dates in 3-6 months.
* Don't buy when you can rent or borrow, such as DVDs and books.
* If you haven't worn clothing in a year or it no longer fits, donate it.
* Limit childhood souvenirs to a few.
* Read my book, What Color Is Your Slipcover?
* Good luck!
Rejuvenation...or... Becoming Empty Nesters
Today was very special. I worked with a couple you met in the book. At the time I did that work, we were struggling with how to change their home to suit their twins who were no longer toddlers They were trying to prevent a move, and use their space more efficiently. You probably will recognize the story easiest if I mention that we made the living room a music room, adding a grand piano, swivel chairs, and rhythm instruments as accessories. And it changed their circle of friends and their lives.
Well, today they've moved into a new category. They're empty nesters and want to bring their home around to meeting their current life. Both of them had read the book cover to cover (some of the process is new!) and done all the exercises. We went through with the interpretations and moved on to what to do with the house now to bring it up to today. It was great fun! We talked about lots of things, things like making the living room into a library by putting a big table in front of the fireplace, bookshelves around, chairs at either side of what used to be the dining room table. It can be used for dining when need be because the dining room is now going to house the grand piano! On and on. It was such an amazing appointment and so full of rejuvenation and transformation!
The cherry on top was them showing me the gardens and pool they had done with a pool person, using my process, about 9 years ago. It was superb with stone patios, a kidney shaped pool, a stone elevated hot tub that's used all year round with a spill that creates a waterfall into the pool, steps down to the pool, and gardens all around. It used to be a dry hard flat piece of property. Now it’s sumptuous, elegant and fits right into the land.
This couple is not hugely affluent. Instead they're just really creative and attentive to growth and transformation. We addressed the entire house. Much will change, and some things will stay the same. But the only things that will stay the same are the things that are working for them now... like the kitchen where they easily cook together, the breakfast area except that we're dropping a ceiling fixture over the table to warm it up, and his sound room where he creates CDs with a music therapist/friend except we'll add a sofa. We may not buy one new piece of furniture. Instead we're shifting and shaking it up and then redistributing. It's very exciting. My hat is off to them.
This past weekend I went to Santa Fe, New Mexico (lucky me!) to attend a retreat for designers. It was held at a wonderful spa (Bishop's Lodge) nestled in the foothills surrounding Santa Fe. The weather was incredible, but the information surpassed it.
As you well know if you've read my book, my thesis is for the design of the home to come from within and to be supportive of the human spirit. This means forgetting the trends and specified styles and creating a home that is filled with what you love, need and want.
Well, the retreat was based on this material. It was assisting designers to have a deeper relationship with the client, observing their clients more closely, understanding their needs and wants and then asking better questions as they processed. It also was based on environmental psychology. Much of my book was written from these concepts, but the speakers updated me, and also brought the concept to all the designers there. The material was so well received.
This is a wonderful sign. It means homes will be connected to the needs of the inhabitants. It means design is becoming more compassionate, earthy, and sensitive to life. It means Interior design is going to support life in a healthier way. Hurray!
My hat is off to all designers who attended. This is a great new interface to our art, and a positive sign that the client is more important than the architecture or the fashion trend. (Actually architecture needs to come from this same premise!) It's also an indicator that homes and public spaces will become softer, friendlier, and more human.
Now all of us need to get better at using this great reality. People creating homes need to get better at knowing who they are and what they need and want. They also need to create healthy partnerships with designers who will work from this premise. Designers need to get better at deep interviewing and then transforming a client's important loves, needs and wants into powerful and beautiful spaces. The end product will be healthier design, more individual happiness, identity, safety and comfort, and all of us living more inspired lives. Fantastic.
As you well know if you've read my book, my thesis is for the design of the home to come from within and to be supportive of the human spirit. This means forgetting the trends and specified styles and creating a home that is filled with what you love, need and want.
Well, the retreat was based on this material. It was assisting designers to have a deeper relationship with the client, observing their clients more closely, understanding their needs and wants and then asking better questions as they processed. It also was based on environmental psychology. Much of my book was written from these concepts, but the speakers updated me, and also brought the concept to all the designers there. The material was so well received.
This is a wonderful sign. It means homes will be connected to the needs of the inhabitants. It means design is becoming more compassionate, earthy, and sensitive to life. It means Interior design is going to support life in a healthier way. Hurray!
My hat is off to all designers who attended. This is a great new interface to our art, and a positive sign that the client is more important than the architecture or the fashion trend. (Actually architecture needs to come from this same premise!) It's also an indicator that homes and public spaces will become softer, friendlier, and more human.
Now all of us need to get better at using this great reality. People creating homes need to get better at knowing who they are and what they need and want. They also need to create healthy partnerships with designers who will work from this premise. Designers need to get better at deep interviewing and then transforming a client's important loves, needs and wants into powerful and beautiful spaces. The end product will be healthier design, more individual happiness, identity, safety and comfort, and all of us living more inspired lives. Fantastic.
The universe is at work! I have had two more communications from women interested in interior design who have believed as I have for years, that the home is sacred and must be created from what we love and what inspires us. One has graduated from Drexel and her master's thesis was on designing from what the client loves. The other is a woman who has believed this in her heart for years and has, at the wonderful age of 58, entered a design school.
This is so exciting to me. Both of these women conjured these beliefs from their own contemplation, and from looking at the state of design today where the client's loves are ignored and trends prevail. Both have expressed to me great feelings about this and how home needs to be a sanctuary that holds what inspires its inhabitants.
I know there are more of us out there. We must persist. We're on an exciting cutting edge that promises homes to our clients that are so personal, so healing, because they come from within. I believe as homes become healing spaces, more humans will be comfortable on the planet. That has to lead to some kind of new and wonderful peace.
One of the women spoke about my book literally flying into her hands in a bookstore. We've all had that experience when something that the Universe wants us to see is put before us quite significantly. She was so excited that she bought four right then!
Well, these two women have made my week. I can't wait to hear from others. We need clients to understand this concept so they go within and choose from who they are. And we need designers who work with their clients to make this happen. So be it!
This is so exciting to me. Both of these women conjured these beliefs from their own contemplation, and from looking at the state of design today where the client's loves are ignored and trends prevail. Both have expressed to me great feelings about this and how home needs to be a sanctuary that holds what inspires its inhabitants.
I know there are more of us out there. We must persist. We're on an exciting cutting edge that promises homes to our clients that are so personal, so healing, because they come from within. I believe as homes become healing spaces, more humans will be comfortable on the planet. That has to lead to some kind of new and wonderful peace.
One of the women spoke about my book literally flying into her hands in a bookstore. We've all had that experience when something that the Universe wants us to see is put before us quite significantly. She was so excited that she bought four right then!
Well, these two women have made my week. I can't wait to hear from others. We need clients to understand this concept so they go within and choose from who they are. And we need designers who work with their clients to make this happen. So be it!
One morning this spring I got up and decided to take a walk. My first turn was around my property and a stop at the stream. Pow, I was blown away by the sight. Mock orange bushes were in full bloom up and down both sides for at least 2 city blocks! There was a wonderful amount of water in the stream so the reflection aspect was mind blowing.
A few dead branches and overgrown bushes were marring the sight, so I decided to garden at the stream! I ran for my boots, small saw clippers and gloves. The results were magnificent. Just a few snips, sawing down one small tree and cleaning dead leaves that had jammed in a past storm produced a picture perfect garden worthy of any tour. It looked gorgeous.
I was entertaining that night, so I quickly went to the phone and called my guests. Bring your boots, I said! Drinks in the stream. Well, they did and it was such a hoot, a tremendous success. I’d found a new room and decorated it in minutes. A miracle created by a much Greater Gardner than myself.
A few dead branches and overgrown bushes were marring the sight, so I decided to garden at the stream! I ran for my boots, small saw clippers and gloves. The results were magnificent. Just a few snips, sawing down one small tree and cleaning dead leaves that had jammed in a past storm produced a picture perfect garden worthy of any tour. It looked gorgeous.
I was entertaining that night, so I quickly went to the phone and called my guests. Bring your boots, I said! Drinks in the stream. Well, they did and it was such a hoot, a tremendous success. I’d found a new room and decorated it in minutes. A miracle created by a much Greater Gardner than myself.
Hi Everybody! Am just finishing the articles in Time, January 17, 2005. The theme is Happiness and the articles are fascinating. It really deserves the time to read it.
The issue really points up the importance of the home, family, relationships, and how we connect to others.
It also talks at length about being in the moment. I could go on and on. But it you would be rewarded more to check out the article yourself!
The issue really points up the importance of the home, family, relationships, and how we connect to others.
It also talks at length about being in the moment. I could go on and on. But it you would be rewarded more to check out the article yourself!
I met with a client recently who had been a student in my design workshops years ago. She had purchased my book, "What Color Is Your Slipcover?" and totally done the process. We met today to review architectural plans for her new house. Her changes since fifteen years ago were huge. When the class met in her home it was highly contemporary with a very high ceiling, lots of glass, white walls, and white and black marble kitchen floors. Today, her picture journal presented Tuscany styles, strong colors, arched doorways and windows, wood floors etc. etc. etc. There was a huge swing toward her feminine side. The process of the book helped her figure it all out. She knows exactly what she wants in her new design.
It was worth the commitment.
It was worth the commitment.
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