Anita's Question

Anita is building a new house. This is the third house I've worked on with Anita. She's done the work of the book "What Color Is Your Slipcover?" and we both now know she loves simplicity, elegance, soft colors, more conservative looks, no drama, lines that are simple and straight. She is working with an architect who is finishing up the new plan. Anita is getting so good at answering the questions about detail on this new space. She's getting so clear, because she's understanding that her comfort is around these design characteristics I've listed. This clarity is serving her well for she is buffeted by phrases from her professionals such as:"This will make the house stand out!" This will give it character" "This is what's in!" These are very seductive statements and lead us all to what we don't want because it doesn't relate to who we are.
Some of my clients love to have their homes "stand out". Others need to see "character" for its convincing them they have character. But I would say to everyone that, it's your
character that needs to show, and there is not a standardized element that can ever represent character. I feel so strongly about this. You will never feel like you belong in the house you've built or bought, or are renting, if it's filled with someone else's interpretation of standardized, character, drama, simplicity, elegance, perfection, difference, on and on. You need to know what is perfect for you, elegant to you. Your own interpretations of your words, your adjectives, serve you and the professionals you are working with. Get clear. Notice the things you love around you, evaluate your responses to looks, feels, presentations, effects, for they all speak to you of your style. They wake you up to what makes you heart comfortable, full and complete. Do the work so no one can tell you how you can have more character.
YOU ALREADY HAVE IT. JUST KNOW WHAT IT IS AND WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE!